Friday, February 4, 2011

You're Far Too Kind...

I have said it before and I'll say it again...I love making out.  Sometimes though...and its rare...something will come along that is even more satisfying then a good make out...right now, its an amazing blog award from the wonderful Alice X at The Boyfriend Drama.  Her blog is always entertaining and fun to read with posts like Why Men Are Like Cheese.  She is sweeter then a cupcake for giving me this award and I thank her so very much for it!!!

Now onto the tough part...the survey.  This award is no need to answer 10 questions about yourself which really get you to think...and write and write and write....

Hope you enjoy!!!!

1. Thank the person (people) that gave you the award. 

2. Answer 10 survey questions.

3. Pass along the award to bloggers you think are fantastic.

4. Let those bloggers know you have given them an award.

1.     If you blog anonymously, are you happy about doing this? If you aren't anonymous, do you wish that you had started out anonymously, so you could be anonymous now?
I blog anonymously…after all whose real name is Pretty Young Thing?!  I will admit that I had decided to blog anonymously initially out of fear that my ex or any of his moronic friends would come across my blog and judge keeping who I am under wraps was the best way to try and prevent that.  Typing that explanation now makes me feel utterly ridiculous but part of that just comes from the hindsight of the situation…in the moment I was definitely panic stricken that he would find it and make fun of me…aaahhh how things change.  At this time I’m happy about doing the anonymous thing in the sense that perhaps when it comes to writing some “dirty” details it makes it a little easier…but now that the fear of my ex reading it is gone I almost don’t care anymore…plus its sometimes a pain in the ass to use code names for everyone.  But at this point its just my thing.  Maybe it’ll change one day.

2.      Describe the incident that shows your stubborn side. 
My last relationship?  Almost every day I feel I hear my mother tell me how “damn stubborn” I am.  To pick out one particular incident would almost be unfair because I can be stubborn about anything.  It really can be a fault some…ok, most…of the time.  As much as I’d like to make it a joke…the gods honest truth is that my last relationship is an excellent example of an incident that very clearly depicts my stubborn side.  I did not want to fail.  I did not want his friends or my friends or anyone to be right.  I did not want him to be the fucking piece of shit he proved he was time and again.  With every piece of me I had I was bound to prove everyone wrong…to shed my fears, my doubts, my lack of trust and faith…and I was going to show everyone that we are meant to be, he is the love of my life and we are happy.
Fuck you stubbornness. 

The one good thing I suppose is that I learned A LOT.  So while I walked away with regrets, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t,  at least some good came from it.

3.     What do you see when you really look into the mirror?
Someone who needs to get reacquainted with the gym before vacation in a month. 

But really…someone who needs to learn how to put herself and her emotions first more often…and as my sister would say “stop being so fucking nice all the time” 

4.     What is your favorite cold summer drink?
how to pick just one….I’d have to go with Ice Tea…of the raspberry or ice tea/lemonade flavor (add rum for extra fun!) 

5.      When you take time for yourself, what do you do?
oh boy…umm, I’d love to sound really awesome and say something like go to the gym but while that is something I do for myself I think the more proper answer is…blast my music and dance (not kidding)…I also try to take dance classes, watch movies on my couch with my favorite blanket and snacks (I’m a total piglet), make my friends go out with me on weird adventures…that’s enough for now

6.      Is there something you still want to accomplish in your life?
Being I’m only in my 20s not only do I have a list of things I still want to accomplish but there are constantly things which are still added to it.  There are things which range from fun (ie – fly a plane (which I’m doing in the spring), go to Greece/Spain/London) to emotional (ie – get married, start a family) to occupational (ie – move up in my career, potentially get another degree, volunteer).  I pray I have enough time!

7.      When you attended school, were you the class clown, the overachiever, the shy person, or always ditching?
I can’t remember a time in my life when I’ve ever been shy.  I love being the center of attention…even as a kid I used to put on dance performances for my family while they were eating dinner.  I also wouldn’t be defined as the class clown.  I’m funny but I never “clowned around” so to say.  I did participate in senior cut day but otherwise wasn’t much of a ditcher.  I always had my go-to teachers who would write me notes to get me out of any class I didn’t want to be in…typically when there was a sub.  So that leaves me with overachiever…which as it would be is fairly accurate.  I was involved in cheerleading, swimming and track.  I participated in clubs, student council and created a charity dance.  I did plays, was a peer educator, lifeguard, swim instructor and volunteered at the hospital.  I’m getting tired just writing all this.  God I was an asshole. 

8.     If you closed your eyes and wanted to visualize a very poignant moment in your life, what would you see?
Well I’m not sure if this is something that has happened or will happen.  I would expect that in the future moments like saying I do or holding a baby for the first time would answer this.  As with something that’s already happened…I had this entire paragraph written about a high profile award I won for a science project I did when I was younger.  Then giving it some thought I decided a more truthful moment would be the one where I realized my ex was not who I thought he was.  It rocked my world to the core and affected the way I saw a lot of things.  It was more than just accepting the truth about our relationship and the disappointment in watching it crumble right in front of me…it was coming to terms with the fact that when someone shows you who they are over and over again, you should believe them.  You can’t make someone be who they are not no matter how much love you give, time you invest or how many tears you shed.  Realizing this little fact of life changed me and made me a much stronger person who is much more protective and cautious of who I give my heart to.  I don’t feel so desperate to make someone be right for me, I’m much happier alone.  So, to my ex…thank you for being the asshole you are.

9.     Is it easy for you to share your true self in your blog, or are you more comfortable writing posts about other people and events?
its surprisingly easy for me to share exactly who I am.  The few times I’ve considered masking the truth or not sharing a story or a feeling I realized I felt more conflicted about it then just telling the whole story.  I find that being anything less than honest just doesn’t feel right.  Once I start a post all of who I am just goes right into it…I write the way I speak to its almost like I’m talking to you when I’m writing.  The words just pour out and when I’m done I can read it and know, yeah that’s me.

10.   If you had a choice to sit down and read a book or talk on the phone, which would you do and why?
This is tough since I actually enjoy both.  I think it would depend where I am.  I’ve found that it’s hard for me to read at home.  I love reading while commuting or traveling but can’t seem to focus at home.  I’m not one who can read before bed.  As for the phone I definitely enjoy phone conversations…it’s the next best thing to being in person in my opinion.  I have a few friends I talk to everyday on the phone and with online dating it’s something that’s inevitable since you’ll want to have at least one conversation with someone before you meet them.  There are some days where I want to just chuck my phone out the window because too many people are calling me or the side of my face feels like its burning from the heat of the phone being on it too long…oh the sacrifices we make.

And the Winners are....
Be Awesome Instead - Hutch is seriously awesome and if you haven't read her blog you need to.  She'll make you laugh and wish you could one day be even close to as awesome as she is.  Her hamburger alerts are seriously one of the funniest things I read on blogs.
Learning From Self History - Matt...oh this boy just melts my heart.  He is so sincere and honest and a wonderful writer.  You will be completely hooked on his stories and find yourself cheering for him at the end of every post.  I have a total blog crush on him.
Date Me, D.C.!  - Katie is such a trip.  She dates and dates and gets some pretty amazing stories out of it.  Her style is insanely entertaining and its hard to get enough (her graphs are the shit).  If you live in the DC area she throws awesome HH...or so I hear.  I'd love to co-host one with her here in NYC (hear that Katie?!)

Go on and indulge in those blogs above and thank me later!!


  1. Thanks girl! I sometimes wish I was a little more anonymous, although I'm pretty sure the DB Magee Ex doesn't know about the blog. If he does, good!

    Have a great weekend!

  2. Thank you very much - I'm flattered! I really enjoy reading your blog too so it's awesome to be mentioned like this. I admire your candor in answering that survey too!

  3. It tough work this award isn't it?

  4. @Hutch - You're so welcome girl! I hope he reads it too so he can see what he's missing out on!

    @Matt - You deserve it!! I'm so happy to give this award to you (and apologize in advance for the work it will cause you) Thank you as well...I start typing and it all just pours out.

    @Alice - my lord it really is! quite the workout for my fingers!

  5. Thanks, lady! I really do need to get my ass up to NYC... how's the weekend of March 3 look for you? E-mail me!

  6. We have quite a bit in common it seems, as we both learned much from our previous relationships... and we're both trying to naviagate dating in one of the craziest cities in the world :)

    CONFESSION TIME! I totally dance around like a maniac in my room, too. Great stress reliever and hey, it's a lot more fun than the elliptical ;)

    Great blog you have here. Hutch sent me! Hope you're enjoying your weekend.