Thursday, December 2, 2010

Write or Stay Silent...

I’m having a bit of a dilemma and I’m not sure what to do about it.  It’s nothing terribly serious, its completely blog related.  Basically there is a post I really, really want to write.  It’s about an outing from this past weekend.  The dilemma, however, is that if I write this post it will reveal my feelings/opinion, which I haven’t and probably may never say out loud, on the events of the evening that involve a friend of mine. 

You may be asking why would I write about it then…and here is why…it’s something I have a strong opinion about and something I feel would bring out a point I constantly try to make to people I know, girls especially.  My hesitation in writing stems from the fact that there is a chance my friend could read this and I don’t want to upset them in case they do.

So the question is…do I write what I want to write and get my feelings and thoughts out there on my own blog whose purpose is to be a medium for me to do such things while taking the risk of a friend potentially being upset over it or perhaps potentially learning something….or do I stay quiet?

I know this is a personal choice but I’d love to hear what the rest of you would do…this is a tough one.


  1. Well now we are all curious, so of course you need to write it. haha.

    Maybe give your friend a heads up and tell them why it was important to you to write it. That way they aren't caught off guard ?

  2. That's a tough one. I still wonder if letting my friends know about the blog was the right thing to do. BUT. I also believe in saying what you want.

  3. It's a tough situation! I would say you should write it---you can't make everybody happy! Because you might not write it and it will be on your mind--HEAVY! Who knows-your friend may not see it (since you said there was a chance).

  4. I've been struggling with similar dilemmas, both with past events and with what to do in the future if I'm dating and blogging at the same time (haven't reached this point yet.)

    If the question of whether to write the post will stay on your mind then the only way to resolve it is to write it I think. Your friend might guess the truth just from reading this post today. Of course I don't know the details though so I might be wrong.

  5. Here is what I tell people who read my will probably learn more about me than you want to know and you may not like all of it. I am going to be open and honest, if sometimes brutally so, because this blog is for me. It's not about you.

    I say blog about it. If you have a view that you think your readers will appreciate then go for it. It may be the perfect way to approach the topic with your friend in a non-confrontational way.

    Or...tell your readers to leave their email address or email you if they want a copy of the blog sent to them...but I'd lean more towards just doing it! :-)

  6. If it were me, I would ask her permission. If she said no, I wouldn't do it. When it comes to my blog, I don't like to write about people who don't know about it because they might not appreciate the way I make them out to be. And if they don't like it, they have no way of voicing their side of the story which isn't really fair.

    I guess it really depends on the situation.

  7. I would talk to your friend first...if this is a point you would make to the world using her as an example- I would make the point to her, first.

    Simple rule I follow (poorly) when choosing my words - would any of my real friends be upset with me for my blog content? If yes, then I won't write it. Because your blog won't take you for drinks when you are sad or happy, your blog won't listen to you cry, your blog won't tell your ex to go fuck himself...

  8. Maybe ask your friend if he/she would mind that way he/she can't really blame you if they doesn't like what they read. It's a difficult one sometimes but i do think there has to boundaries between online and reality, you don't want to alienate yourself. It's a tough one!